When I was younger, my definition of pretty was extremely superficial. Pretty was perfectly straight, long, shimmering hair, flawless skin, and a perfect hour glass figure. That’s what “Pretty” was in my book.
All it took was a few years of puberty to completely saturate me in disappointment about the way I looked. I was not anywhere near my definition of pretty. In fact, I was the opposite. I had breakouts all over my face, I was tall and skinny with a more narrow figure, and my hair was thick and kinky curly.
Because I based my definition of pretty as everything but what I was, I struggled with this intense and constant insecurity about every little thing I did. I would barely look others in the eye sometimes because I wanted to hide my imperfections from people.
Living with a constant awareness of my imperfections caused me to go through some pretty emotionally draining and self-loathing times. There were days I told myself to not even make an effort to look nice because I predetermined it would be a failed attempt anyway. I constantly critiqued myself like I was my own bully.
Pretty… as I define it today, is a very different definition entirely. One that the old me wouldn’t believe at all.
It took several life experiences, a few times of hitting my head against a wall, and meeting a few luminous personalities to get me to see “pretty” in a different light.
Pretty is… you. Simple and plain as that.
“He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also, he has put eternity into man’s heart, yet so that he cannot find out what God has done from the beginning to the end.” – Ecclesiastes 3:11
God doesn’t make ugly. Desiring to fit the mold of your own preconceived definition of “pretty” will only bring disappointment, just as I learned.
God has made everything different so that it may work together perfectly. Much like the keys of a piano. If every key played the same note, there would be no harmony but rather echo’s of the same note.
Every key plays a different note so that there are many ways to create many musical pieces.
In the same way, I learned it’s important to leave your “pretty” undefined. Your distinct key (physical features, talents, personality, etc.) on the piano we know as the world is just as beautiful as any other! It is ultimately up to God to shape and mold you, and who better to shape and mold you than someone who ONLY creates beautiful and purposeful things?
“Yet you, LORD, are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand.” – Isaiah 64:8