On Letting Go of Shame

On Letting Go of Shame

Life starts all over again when it gets crisp in the fall

-F. Scott Fitzgerald

Being hard on myself has its perks and it has its downsides. When I finally build up the drive to work on quitting a bad habit, if I build up a good streak and ruin it, I am the absolute worst at forgiving myself and moving right along like nothing happened.

I can relapse in an instant out of laziness, convenience, or whatever else makes it acceptable in the moment yet afterwards I hang it over my head and wonder if trying to stop the habit is worth it anyway. It’s such a suffocating, growth-stunting mentality and it isn’t healthy at all so lately, I’ve been working on changing my perspective.

As fall (and nature in general..) display’s perfectly, change isn’t instant. It’s not like when the tree’s notice winter is approaching they just shed all of their leaves all at once. They take their time. One leaf falls off here, another there, and one by one the tree’s let go of the dead leaves as each one dies. It takes patience, but eventually all of the leaves are shed. I’m learning to have the same patience with myself.  Continue reading “On Letting Go of Shame”

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Why You Should Keep Long Distance Friendships

Why You Should Keep Long Distance Friendships

I can’t tell you how many college blog posts I’ve read that talk about the breaking off of a high school friendship. Some writers argue that it was imparted by them because “people change, circumstances change, yatta yatta yatta”. Others say the separation was dealt to them for usually the same reasons. Either way, I don’t see why so many feel that after high school it is time to make such rash relationship adjustments.

Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that it is always healthy to maintain old friendships/relationships. Just because you have known someone a long time, does not mean that they are a true friend at all. Sometimes the younger you doesn’t even truly know what friendship is supposed to be and you find the older you, who has matured, gained self-respect, self-love, greater knowledge of self and whatever else, no longer tolerates certain friendships. This is understandable and it happens!

What I am talking about however, is the decision-making process in which you feel like you need to rashly, abruptly, or even gradually end a friendship with one person or a group of people simply because… I mean hello, College! You are moving and/or want the space to mature in whatever you choose to mature in… without your past interrupting your present. I get it… I just don’t agree with it. Here’s why:  Continue reading “Why You Should Keep Long Distance Friendships”

5 Reasons Why I Choose to Stay Content / 5 Positive Affirmations

5 Reasons Why I Choose to Stay Content / 5 Positive Affirmations

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1. Because no one can change the past, but I can change my present

Whatever mistakes I made are made. I can do nothing at this point to change them, so why should I be stuck on the past?

2. Because God’s mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23)

If God can renew his mercies every morning, I can renew my positivity and forgive anyone (even myself) every morning.

3. Because I’m grateful for the blessings I have

I have a roof over my head, clothes on my back, and breath in my lungs. Those three things combined are a hazy dream for some, so it should be more than enough for me.

4. Because I am loved

God above all else cherishes me and loves me dearly (John 3:16) and I am loved by my family. It is an immense blessing to have people in the world who genuinely adore you.

5. Because I am valuable

Despite the many mistakes i’ve made and will make in the future, I am not defined by them. God has a plan for my life (Jeremiah 29:11) and he would not continuously put breath in my lungs day after day if there wasn’t a reason he wanted me to continue living.

What are some reasons why you choose to be content?

19 Life Lessons I Learned at 19

19 Life Lessons I Learned at 19

August 8th was the first day of an entirely new decade in my life. The big 2 0. Twenty years old! That’s T W E N T Y years old! It seems unreal and almost like the end of an era. 19 was that awkward in-between year, kind of like 9, 12 or 17; the ages that come right before the more “monumental” ages (according to society and cultural norms that is).  In all actuality,  every age is “monumental” in its own right. Each age comes with its own challenges and in those, its own lessons! These are the ones I learned at 19:

Candid Birthday Photo (Ninas) 1. You can either let the day run you, or you can run the day.

2. It isn’t who you are that holds you back, but who you think you’re not.

3. Happiness isn’t measured according to your circumstance, but by your attitude towards your circumstance.

4. You are your own worst enemy.

5. Blessings can be disguised as burdens.

6. It is better to choose significance over prominence.

7. Comparison is the thief of contentment.

8. Say what you mean, and live what you say. Otherwise, say nothing.

9. If it sounds too good to be true, it isn’t. 😛

10. The longer you spend doing the wrong thing, the longer it’ll take to get to the right thing.

11. No one can be better at being you, than you.

12. There is only one ultimate truth, but two ways to learn it; Experience or Listening

13. It’s okay to not have it all together all of the time!

 14. Growth is inevitable.

15. It’s the little things in life that matter (:

16. Sometimes, you get into periods in life in which you can’t be understood by others.

17. Old habits get increasingly harder to discontinue the older you get -.-

18. When you don’t have anyone to look up to, it might be because you’re that person for someone else.

19. For something that can be so hard to do, letting go is so freeing!

 Learned something in your 19th year that you didn’t see here? Please share your piece of wisdom with others below! 

2 Unexpected Ways My Life Was Impacted This Summer

2 Unexpected Ways My Life Was Impacted This Summer

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Happy Saturday everyone!

This post is going to be really short, but I just thought I’d give you guys a little update on what I’ve been up to since my last post. This summer I only had one major plan and that was to road trip to San Antonio with a few friends for a girls trip! When that didn’t work out, I ended up adventuring in ways a little more close to home.

Unexpected Life Impact #1:  The Decision to Go Vegan

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This isn’t the first big dietary switch I’ve made, but gosh it is the hardest!

In 2015, I decided to go Vegetarian. It lasted for a year and roughly a month before I decided to give up my streak for a nice, hot, crunchy piece of homemade fried chicken. It wasn’t the fried chicken in itself that made me quit, but the lack of meal prepping and planning on my end! I was the only member of my family going Vegetarian, so I tried myself out on quick meals like salads and peanut butter sandwiches. (Amateur mistake, I know >.<)

This time however, my entire family watched a movie called What the Health. It was SUCH a well-done, informative documentary on the meat industry and its tie to disease and illnesses of all sorts. Not to mention the apparent underground ties that the meat industry has with the medical industry.

*Spoiler Alert: More meat = more sickness = richer doctors. *

The overall lesson I learned is simply stated: Ignorance is NOT bliss. It’s just ignorance… Since making this decision at the beginning of July, I’ve noticed a few really good differences healthwise (but I’ll save that for another post(; ).  Now that the entire family is eating vegan, It has encouraged each of us to experiment with different foods in the kitchen a bit more. 

Unexpected Life Impact #2: More Time in the Word


I guess I consider this “unexpected” because I didn’t really plan on spending as much time in the word as I have been this summer and I didn’t really plan for how it would impact my relationship with God!

I have always tried to be consistent in spending time with God every morning but I either wake-up at Late O’ Clock or I end up feeling like I kind of rushed Jesus in and out of my day for sake of time. Over the course of the summer however, I was able to just spend an hour or two in prayer or reading the word. It was so nice being able to have that time without worrying about to-do’s in the back of my mind!

Are there any ways this summer has impacted you? If so, comment below. I’d love to hear about it!

Learning to Be Alone

Learning to Be Alone

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Often times life throws us curve balls. We can be skipping along one path holding the hand of a dearly loved friend or group of friends and all of a sudden find that we are at a fork in the road. To make matters worse, the road directly ahead of you is only wide enough for one person to walk on… which means that you have to walk alone.

The word that so many seem to be afraid of: Alone. Meaning no one but you. Party of one.

It can be a scary concept to grasp, especially if you genuinely love the company of other people. After all, it’s nice to have people to share life with. Part of being human is having that God-given craving for connection and community with other people. I’d be lying if I told you that being alone is the best thing in the entire world because, well, it just isn’t. Some of the most priceless moments we get to experience in life are those shared with others. Don’t get me wrong, there are times when being alone is enjoyable but it is when God unexpectedly changes your plans so that you are alone with Him that loneliness starts to seem like the chore you really dread doing.

I say chore because during that time, you truly are at work.

You’re doing you, learning all about your capabilities, your weaknesses, and building upon your strengths. But I want to share a secret with you: You’re not the only one doing the work.

God is working too, and a lot harder than you. He is actually handling the biggest task: Molding you to be ready for the next big thing.

Think of God as the coach and you as the boxer. You may have won your last match, but now you will be fighting someone with even MORE skill, even MORE tact, even MORE energy, and even MORE speed. You just won’t be ready for that right away and you certainly won’t be ready for it playing tag team with your buddies.

You have to test your own will power by training for the next big thing alone.

That means you have to master the training you are going through, the training God is carefully and tactfully assigning you to, before you are ready to fight the next battle. So please, don’t squander the time you have!

I want to encourage you to use this time of loneliness to the best of your ability by letting God prepare you for your next big thing in giving you time to grow stronger and wiser. Get on your knees and actively pursue Him in prayer so you can hear His voice clearly as he guides you during this time. When your human desire for connection and community arises, take that to the Coach(; He knows when you need the refreshment only Jesus can provide.

I’ve listed a few bible verses below that I’m hoping will help you along in this season of your life. I suggest writing the ones that speak to you down and keeping them handy. That way if you ever feel your thoughts begin to down spiral into a pool self-pity, you can refer to one of these for a boost of hope, confidence, and surety.

but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life. 

-John 4:14

For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans for welfare and not for calamity to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me and come and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. You will seek Me and find Me when you search for Me with all your heart. 

-Jeremiah 29:11-13

But if we hope for what we do not yet see, we wait for it patiently. In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know how we ought to pray, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groans too deep for words. 

-Romans 8:26 

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.

-Isaiah 41:10

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you 

-1 Peter 5:7 

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds 

-Psalm 147:3 

For I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you. 

-Isaiah 41:13 

The LORD is the one who goes ahead of you; He will be with you He will not fail you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed

-Deuteronomy 31:8 

 

If I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself, that where I am, there you may be also.

-John 14:3 

Use this time wisely friend. You are being strengthened, refined, and perfected as you even sit here reading this post! Make the most out of the time you have now, and surely you will find yourself expressing gratitude for every moment God worked on making you fit for the next stage.

 

 

My Most Embarrassing Moment (Liebster Award)

My Most Embarrassing Moment (Liebster Award)

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 This year I have been tested, refined, and blessed in so many ways thanks to this blog right here. My blogging journey has been nothing short of eye-opening and amazing as I have been getting more acquainted with different blogs and the bloggers who run them, such as the amazing Davis and the wonderful Rachael who nominated me for the Liebster Award! I couldn’t thank you guys enough for bestowing such recognition upon this blog. I truly am honored!

I do get the pleasure of nominating 11 other bloggers for this award, so please get comfortable and stay tuned because if you are a blogger, your name and blog may be nominated!

So what are the rules?

1. Post eleven facts about yourself.
2. Answer the eleven questions your nominator asked in their post.
3. Nominate eleven other bloggers of your choice.
4. Come up with your own eleven questions for your nominees.
5. Let your nominees know that they’ve been chosen!
6. Link back to the person of which nominated you. 

Let’s Get Started!

11 Random Facts About Me:

  1. Despite what it often looks like, my hair is dark brown. Not black. 😛
  2. I am mixed! Puerto Rican & African-American.
  3. I have a slight coffee addiction… only a slight one.. ^.^
  4. If I could sing all day, I would. I love it. But you’ll never get me to do it in front of you because I fear being too loud. >.<
  5. I barely watch television shows anymore because I get too bored to keep up with them.
  6. My all time favorite movies are The Devil Wears Prada and Bride Wars.
  7. I like all types of music… except screamo.
  8. I played Volleyball for 3 years.
  9. My first pet was a beta fish I named Freddy.
  10. I love big dogs!
  11. I was born with a cleft palate, so I don’t have a uvula.

Questions by Davis:

  1. What is your ultimate guilty pleasure?  The combination of coffee and chocolate.
  2. If you could go anywhere in the world, where would it be, why?  Paris, France. I’ve always wanted to have a five-star experience in Paris. Have a nice hotel with a terrace that looks out at the Eiffel tower. Get to eat fine french cuisine, sip latte’s, write, think, and just enjoy the scenery.
  3. What’s your most embarrassing story?  When I was in the third grade, I wore something similar to this: skirt with leggings to gym class. Well… that day the gym teacher decided to have all 80 something third grade students in the gym line up in 4 lines of about 20 students each (I am doing my best estimating here… this was forever ago!) facing him. One by one, boy and girl filed in their lines and I found myself in the middle of mine. The gym teacher asked that everyone sit down kriss cross, so we did. After his brief speech about what we were about to do, he asked everyone to stand up. Without knowing I had stepped on my skirt, I sprouted upwards to stand up and my skirt/leggings came right on down. Luckily, I felt the uncomfortable breeze pretty quickly so I hurriedly pulled up my skirt/leggings just after the boy behind me blew an awkward whistle…. That was the last time I wore that skirt/legging to school.
  4. If you were to start a secondary blog, what would it be about? It would probably be about blogging.
  5. Have you ever had your writing published, aside from your own blog? Indeed, I have! My first published piece was an article I wrote for a local newspaper I was a contributing writer for.
  6. Which animal do you most identify with and why? So I actually decided to take an online test for this one and I got a cat… which is weird because I’m actually a dog person??… hmm….
  7. What is your favourite childhood memory? Growing up, my family took road trips at least every other summer to visit other family members. I’d say those road trips, as uncomfortable as they were sometimes, were definitely the creme de la creme of my childhood.
  8. What do you find to be the most annoying thing associated with blogging? I think, for me, the most annoying thing associated with blogging is finding time to take pictures. For every one photo I post on this blog, there are 100 more that I have stashed away of the same exact thing. Some are from different angles and viewpoints but all were taken to find that perfect shot! Photography definitely requires well-planned time and it can be stressful to try to conduct a photo shoot when you don’t have a lot of time.
  9. Is there anything you’d go back and do differently with your blogging journey? If I could go back, I would definitely relax my blind urgency to start the blog. I think if I would have done more research on blogging, I would have had a clearer direction as to what to do from the start rather than figuring all of that out later.
  10. If you’d have been born in any other time, which would you choose for yourself? To be honest… I really don’t think there is any other time I’d want to be born in.
  11. With the knowledge and experience you have now, what one thing would you go back and tell yourself as a child?  I would tell myself that every mistake I make has already been made by countless others before me, and even alongside me. No one is perfect.

Here are the Nominees…

  1. Nikki from Nikki Acuna
  2. Jasmine from Thoughts From Jasmine
  3. Gaby from Unbothered Style
  4. Freya from Shout for Joy Blog
  5. Danielle from Dazzle On
  6. Alice from Simply Alice
  7. Kristen from Travels & Treats
  8. Sydney from Meekly Loving
  9. Eva from The Charlie Bird
  10. Cassidy from Cassidy’s Heart
  11. Melissa from Individually Chic 

11 Questions for the Nominees

  1. Out of all the places you’ve traveled, which place is your favorite?
  2. What is your blog post writing process like? (Do you have a specific routine or certain things you like to have when you to write?)
  3. If you could relive one day out of your entire life, what day would it be and why?
  4. What is your favorite book?
  5. Do you have a favorite quote or scripture? Do tell(:
  6. What has been the hardest life lesson you’ve learned yet?
  7.  What music genre/music artist/song(s) are you in love with right now?
  8. Morning person or Night Owl?
  9. What is a major pet peeve of yours?
  10. Your favorite thing about blogging?
  11. Why did you decide to start your blog?

To Be Continued…

Want the answers? Make sure to check out the pages of the bloggers listed! You are sure to find content related to travel, fashion, self-care, mindfulness, faith, and more goodness. I could not lead you guys astray when it comes to suggesting good blogs to read so believe me when I say you are in for a treat with each and every single one of these(:

Hope you guys enjoy your weekend!