In the moment, I laughed it off. We were having a good time and I didn’t want to turn what was meant to be a compliment (or at least I think it was meant to be a compliment…) into something it wasn’t meant to be received as. Two guy schoolmates of mine (we’ll call them Joe and Moe) and I were in the car, talking and laughing about God knows what, on our way to a fast-food restaurant. We were all cracking jokes about something, when Moe turned to me and said: Continue reading “Surviving the Comparison Trap”
At the beginning of the year, I downloaded a horoscope app (because I will admit my curiosity about how accurate these kinds of things are has gotten the best of me) and decided to check out my horoscope for the year. Basically it states that, for Leo’s, this year will be a year of anti-comfort. Continue reading “How to Overcome the Awkwardness of Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone”
As I am sure many of you have heard by now, on January 2nd, Logan Paul (a popular YouTuber for those who may not recognize the name) received widespread backlash about a video he posted in which he filmed a corpse hanging from a noose while exploring Japan’s Aokigahara. The Aokigahara is referred to as the “Sea of Trees” and it’s more popularized nickname, Suicide Forest, since it is the second most popular place in the world for one to commit suicide in. Continue reading “The Easiest Way to Trivialize Wisdom”
Life starts all over again when it gets crisp in the fall
-F. Scott Fitzgerald
Being hard on myself has its perks and it has its downsides. When I finally build up the drive to work on quitting a bad habit, if I build up a good streak and ruin it, I am the absolute worst at forgiving myself and moving right along like nothing happened.
I can relapse in an instant out of laziness, convenience, or whatever else makes it acceptable in the moment yet afterwards I hang it over my head and wonder if trying to stop the habit is worth it anyway. It’s such a suffocating, growth-stunting mentality and it isn’t healthy at all so lately, I’ve been working on changing my perspective.
As fall (and nature in general..) display’s perfectly, change isn’t instant. It’s not like when the tree’s notice winter is approaching they just shed all of their leaves all at once. They take their time. One leaf falls off here, another there, and one by one the tree’s let go of the dead leaves as each one dies. It takes patience, but eventually all of the leaves are shed. I’m learning to have the same patience with myself. Continue reading “On Letting Go of Shame”
I can’t tell you how many college blog posts I’ve read that talk about the breaking off of a high school friendship. Some writers argue that it was imparted by them because “people change, circumstances change, yatta yatta yatta”. Others say the separation was dealt to them for usually the same reasons. Either way, I don’t see why so many feel that after high school it is time to make such rash relationship adjustments.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that it is always healthy to maintain old friendships/relationships. Just because you have known someone a long time, does not mean that they are a true friend at all. Sometimes the younger you doesn’t even truly know what friendship is supposed to be and you find the older you, who has matured, gained self-respect, self-love, greater knowledge of self and whatever else, no longer tolerates certain friendships. This is understandable and it happens!
What I am talking about however, is the decision-making process in which you feel like you need to rashly, abruptly, or even gradually end a friendship with one person or a group of people simply because… I mean hello, College! You are moving and/or want the space to mature in whatever you choose to mature in… without your past interrupting your present. I get it… I just don’t agree with it. Here’s why: Continue reading “Why You Should Keep Long Distance Friendships”
1. Because no one can change the past, but I can change my present
Whatever mistakes I made are made. I can do nothing at this point to change them, so why should I be stuck on the past?
2. Because God’s mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23)
If God can renew his mercies every morning, I can renew my positivity and forgive anyone (even myself) every morning.
3. Because I’m grateful for the blessings I have
I have a roof over my head, clothes on my back, and breath in my lungs. Those three things combined are a hazy dream for some, so it should be more than enough for me.
4. Because I am loved
God above all else cherishes me and loves me dearly (John 3:16) and I am loved by my family. It is an immense blessing to have people in the world who genuinely adore you.
5. Because I am valuable
Despite the many mistakes i’ve made and will make in the future, I am not defined by them. God has a plan for my life (Jeremiah 29:11) and he would not continuously put breath in my lungs day after day if there wasn’t a reason he wanted me to continue living.
What are some reasons why you choose to be content?
August 8th was the first day of an entirely new decade in my life. The big 2 0. Twenty years old! That’s T W E N T Y years old! It seems unreal and almost like the end of an era. 19 was that awkward in-between year, kind of like 9, 12 or 17; the ages that come right before the more “monumental” ages (according to society and cultural norms that is). In all actuality, every age is “monumental” in its own right. Each age comes with its own challenges and in those, its own lessons! These are the ones I learned at 19:
1. You can either let the day run you, or you can run the day.
2. It isn’t who you are that holds you back, but who you think you’re not.
3. Happiness isn’t measured according to your circumstance, but by your attitude towards your circumstance.
4. You are your own worst enemy.
5. Blessings can be disguised as burdens.
6. It is better to choose significance over prominence.
7. Comparison is the thief of contentment.
8. Say what you mean, and live what you say. Otherwise, say nothing.
9. If it sounds too good to be true, it isn’t. 😛
10. The longer you spend doing the wrong thing, the longer it’ll take to get to the right thing.
11. No one can be better at being you, than you.
12. There is only one ultimate truth, but two ways to learn it; Experience or Listening
13. It’s okay to not have it all together all of the time!
14. Growth is inevitable.
15. It’s the little things in life that matter (:
16. Sometimes, you get into periods in life in which you can’t be understood by others.
17. Old habits get increasingly harder to discontinue the older you get -.-
18. When you don’t have anyone to look up to, it might be because you’re that person for someone else.
19. For something that can be so hard to do, letting go is so freeing!
Learned something in your 19th year that you didn’t see here? Please share your piece of wisdom with others below!